Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Things I Love

Valentine's Day has never been about romance for me. I know it has a long history, but I'm not much for history so I'll spare you the boring recap. It's also one of those "holidays" that the greeting card and candy companies benefit from, but again I don't care to get into that - no need to get raged up on a such a nice day. I thought maybe I'd share a few of the things that I love on this day, the 14th of February. So here goes - there will be lots of links!


First is My Family - no need to elaborate!
 I love everything natural, especially cloth diapering. I have a great diaper service, Sweet Peach. They also provide a number of other fabulous things I love like slings, wraps, carriers, nursing bras and tanks and a whole variety of cloth diapers - by far my favorite natural parenting store!

Speaking of wraps, ring slings and soft structured carriers, I love babywearing!! Here are some of my favorite places to ogle my favorite carriers:
ObiMama - beautiful handmade ring slings and wrap conversion mei tais
Sustain.Able Sprouts - lots of items to choose from, including my new favorite wrap the Girasol
PAXbaby.com - carries pretty much any carrier you can think of. 

I also love giveaways! Who doesn't love a chance at free stuff? The above three businesses are also holding giveaways today!

I love Crafting... I'm not great at it, but it's fun and I like getting the end product.
Pinterest - brace yourself for a slight addiction. This website allows everyone to "pin" photos they like to their pinboard and in doing so allows anyone that follows that person to see items that interest that person. These photos aren't simply a photo to look at, however, it's a direct link to the website that the photo came from. So when you click on that photo, say a photo of a handmade craft like an owl hat, it takes you to the website that the pinner saw it on - it may or may not have a pattern or the opportunity to buy the pattern on the website or blog. I'm always up for seeing what you like, so come Follow Me!
CraftGawker - runs on the same principle as Pinterest with direct links to websites and blogs.
Jo-Ann Fabric and Craft Stores - though I've never bought anything from this company they often have great ideas and tutorials for things to make.
I have bought some lovely fabrics from the following Etsy shops, but will lnk to their facebook sites out of convenience. LeeLee, Fishskin Fabric and Pink Castle Fabrics. All of which have had a great turnaround time and wonderful customer service.

I also love love love informed childbirth! Nothing makes my heart swell like a mother and father who ask questions and make decisions based on information... the reason I'm a doula! If you're interested in becoming a doula check out DONA International. If you live Leeds Grenville area and are looking for a doula check out My Website to see if I might be the doula for you. If you're looking for information head on over to The Childbirth Connection and if you're pregnant and want the ultimate in care and information, seek a midwife - Community Midwives of Kingston Facebook page is an active page with all sorts of posts for families and their website will put you in touch with them. All three of our children have entered this world with the support of the midwives in Kingston, they are wonderful!

Tied with informed childbirth is breastfeeding. It's great for mom and babe, nature's choice. It is a touchy subject so I'll skip my opinion for now (I'll save it for a future blog post and really get our hearts racing!).
Human Milk 4 Human Babies - provides a way for those needing breastmilk to get in touch with those who what to share their breastmilk as well as provides information to anyone interested in milksharing.
KellyMom - is an education-based source of information. Baby-friendly and all around awesome.
Best for Babes - breaking down breastfeeding barriers all over the place!
These are just my top picks... there are so many more out there!

And finally I have a real love for trees... I don't know why (aside from their natural life-giving qualities) I am just truly drawn to them. I have a tree on our property that pulls me to it on a weekly basis, its strange to say the least. But my favorite type of tree by far is the ones I grow when I grow my babies, the ultimate in life-giving trees, the "Tree of Life" found on the baby's side of the placenta.

My most recent creation
And I suppose that brings me back full circle to the things I love the most: My husband, the co-creator of this tree, and my three perfect little boys. Happy Valentine's Day!

Friday, February 10, 2012

Value & Purpose of Labour Support

I am a Birth Doula certified by Doula Of North America (DONA) International. This is the essay that I wrote at the time of my certification. It's a little lengthy, but if you're interested at all in what I believe the Value and Purpose of Labour Support it's well worth a read. I've included the resources I used for the essay as well. Please, if you are hoping to be certified by DONA International write your own essay, and put yourself into it, don't steal mine. Enjoy!

Purpose & Value of Labour Support
            Throughout history women have supported one another during childbirth. With the inception of preventative interventions, however, these valuable supports were left to wait outside of the delivery room during this emotionally and physically exhausting time and mothers and their partners were left to make decisions based on little information. Thankfully, in the last half a century fathers became welcomed into the birth room allowing the couple to be together for childbirth (Klaus, Kennell and Klaus, 2002). This led to the realization that although fathers provided a familiar face and a loving relationship they were often not prepared to provide the support a labouring woman needed during childbirth (Klaus et al. 2002). The rebirth of continuous support provided by a caring, experienced woman, now termed “Doula”, filled this void and drastically improved the obstetric outcomes.
Studies have found that the beneficial effects of continuous labour support vary by type of provider but there was a decrease in operative birth and an increase in spontaneous birth when women were cared for by women whose training, role or identity focused on labour support and was not part of the hospital staff (Hodnett, Gates, Hofmeyr & Sakala, 2007, p.10). Similarly, another review by Hodnett, Gates, Hofmeyr, Sakala & Weston (p.13, 2011) found that women who were allocated to continuous one-to-one support were more likely to have spontaneous vaginal births, their labours were shorter, and they were less likely to have intrapartum analgesia,  caesarean or instrumental births, regional analgesia or a baby with a low five-minute Apgar score. A doula’s presence has proven to be highly beneficial in the childbirth environment.
            Similarly, DONA International’s Position Paper: The Birth Doula’s Contribution to Modern Maternity Care (2008), discusses the benefits of having continuous support during childbirth. The emotional, physical and informational support a doula provides is, however, more than just support: it is confidence in the ability to birth, to make decisions and to be a good parent; it is reassurance that parents will not be alone.  In The Birth Partner (2008, p.309), Penny Simkin states that:
“Studies have found lower rates of cesarean and fewer interventions among doula-attended births… by instilling greater confidence in the parents to choose options that include fewer un-necessary interventions and improve the chances for a normal labour.”

Continuous labour support also promotes long term benefits such as increased bonding between parents and infants, better breastfeeding relationships and an increased self confidence and satisfaction as parents leading to better long term attachment as a family unit. Fostering relationships is of utmost importance. A doula can give the emotional support necessary to ensure that the first few hours together as a family start off in the best possible way. It is a physically and emotionally sensitive time and the care she and her infant receive during this time can have a beneficial long-term effect on a woman’s self-concept, her relationships with the father, their care and image of their infant and their own emotional well-being (Klaus et al., 2002 p. 101). The benefits of having continuous labour support are evident in the positive effect that it has on obstetrical outcomes and the emotional and psychological well-being of the mother, all of which directly contribute to the overall well-being of the family unit.
            By providing informational, emotional and physical support a doula hopes to enable a mother and her partner to have a safe and satisfying birth as they define it. To help attain this goal a doula can help partners feel more confident in their ability to support the woman, allowing him to participate at his own comfort level and become more involved and subsequently contributing to a positive birth experience (Hodnett et al. 2011). Also, a time comes when questions arise during labour. Having a trained and experienced birth partner such as a doula can help to keep the woman at ease by answering questions or through reassurance. As discussed by Klaus et al. (2002). A doula can provide an objective perspective, a calm presence and removed, to some degree, from the mother’s discomfort. Finally, families that have information make informed decisions and are more likely to advocate for themselves when faced with a choice. A doula serves exactly this purpose. She advocates for the family by encouraging her client to gather information, ask questions and express concerns. The purpose of continuous labour support is, through empowerment, to ensure that a mother and her partner have a positive birthing experience.
            A mother’s well-being is the most crucial aspect of her care because it impacts so many parts of her life. The medical team has extensive training in the clinical well-being of the mother and plays a very important role in ensuring that she is taken care of. A doula also has a very important role; the non-clinical care of the labouring mother. The non-clinical aspects of doula care include: physical, emotional and informational support; pain relief through the use of comfort measures and relaxation techniques; and emotional reassurance. A doula can provide exactly this because she has taken the time to learn what a couple expects and wants during labour and is able to read  a mother and know what is and isn’t working; above everything else, she provides assurance that her support will be continuous (Klaus et al., 2002). Because a doula is not responsible for the medical well-being of a labouring mother, she can provide continuous and personalized care by focusing on the mother’s emotional and physical needs throughout labour and childbirth.
            Along with her non-clinical role, a doula also has ethical responsibilities that she, like many other professionals, must conform to and respect. First and foremost she has responsibilities to her clients. These ensure that a client is treated fairly and with the highest respect and professionalism. They include primacy; rights and prerogatives of clients, confidentiality, privacy, and finally a doula must both be reliable and set fair and well-stated fees (DONA International Code of Ethics, 2006). In order to ensure that a doula acts in accordance with the highest standards of professional integrity, she must treat her colleagues with respect, fairness and courtesy and when dealing with a colleague’s clients she should relate to them with full professional consideration (DONA International Code of Ethics, 2006). The doula must also strive to maintain the integrity of the labour support profession and to assist the DONA vision of “A Doula for Every Woman Who Wants One” by reducing or eliminating cost of her support services whenever possible (DONA International Code of Ethics, 2006). Finally, the doula has an ethical responsibility to society; promoting maternal and child welfare by promoting the general health of women and their babies (DONA International Code of Ethics, 2006). In order to uphold the integrity and professionalism of trained and certified doulas it is most important for doulas to respect and fulfill her ethical responsibilities.
            Although doulas have essentially been around for centuries it is only in recent history that they have been recognized as a truly valuable resource. Many studies have shown that interventions and complications are reduced when a mother receives continuous labour support and positive psychological and emotional outcomes have increased. Fathers and partners are more involved and families as a whole benefit from having a doula present. This non-clinical care and support that a doula provides has proven to have long-term benefits for both parents and infants and should not be overlooked. While the purpose of a doula is to ensure that a mother and her partner have a positive experience and memory of their child’s birth it is also the doula’s responsibility to maintain the integrity of the labour support profession by fulfilling her ethical responsibilities. All of which are an honour to be a part of.

References
DONA International. Code of Ethics: Birth Doula.

DONA International. (2008). Position Paper: The birth doula’s contribution to modern
maternity care. Simkin, P. & Way, K..

DONA International. Standards of Practice: Birth Doula.

Hodnett, E.D., Gates, S., Hofmeyr, G.J. & Sakala, C. (2007). Continuous support for women
during childbirth (review). The Cochrane Collaboration, (3), 1-68. Retrieved from www.childbirthconnection.org

Hodnett, E.D., Gates, S., Hofmeyr, G.J.,  Sakala, C., & Weston, J. (2011). Continuous support
for women during childbirth (review). The Cochrane Collaboration, (2), 1-100. Retrieved

Kitzinger, S. (2004). The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth (4th Ed.). New York:
Knopf.

Klaus, M.H., Kennell, J.H., Klaus, P.H. (2002). The Doula Book. (2nd Ed.). Cambridge, (MA):
Da Capo Press.

Simkin, P. (2008). The Birth Partner (3rd Ed.). Boston (MA): The Harvard Common Press.

Simkin, P., Whalley, J., Keppler, A. (2001). Pregnancy Childbirth and the Newborn the
Complete Guide. Minnetonka, (MA): Meadowbrook Press.

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Learning By Doing

Blueberry Muffins: a blurry action shot.
  On any given day I have the urge to make something - cookies, muffins, potpie, soup, hats, scarves, diaper covers, burp cloths, and most often, blankets - I don't know why, I just want to create. Come to think of it maybe that's part of the reason I like having babies... hmmm. On most days I do get the chance to make something with the kids, be it a tiny craft or starting a project. It's really quite nice to have the time to do these things and the kids love doing it too. Being a stay at home mom and a homeschooling family are truely awesome opportunities! I'm so glad we've decided to take this journey. Not only is baking muffins or cookies fun for my oldest, it's learning: measuring, counting, stirring, scooping, timing, waiting... all valuable life skills. My middle guy clearly enjoys being in the kitchen (or cupboards) with us and my youngest, although you can't see him, is riding shotgun in the maya wrap sling loving every minute of the baking session. My oldest loves to cook so I try to have him involved in all of the kitchen activities (including the clean-up!).
A few of the crew
   This week we made muffins, yes, but I also had a chance to do a little sewing. I'm drawn  to sewing. I love it and don't know why. Two years ago I thought it would be a good idea to do a sock monkey fundraiser, "Sock It To Cancer", and made 54 of the little darlings. It was therapeutic and frustrating all at the same time. I had a 3 month old and a 22 month old to entertain, but got them finished. Now I am on to quilts. I've purchased fabric - lots of it - and I hope to make a few different quilts of varying degrees of difficulty. This week I was forced into buckling down and just getting one done! I love having an excuse to sew, and a looming baby shower is great motivation! Not only did I make a lovely little quilt (the fabric is so so soooo cute) I also made some burp cloths designed in a way I thought was best, triangular (the small rectangular ones don't provide enough coverage for the shoulder and the large ones are waaay too big). Hopefully I'll have the chance to complete one more quilt this week for a doula client with a new baby too.
A few owl hats
   I love the feeling of accomplishment when I make something I love and it didn't take a month of sundays to complete. I'm obviously an instant gratification kind of girl so these two projects were perfect. Last year I went on a crocheting kick and made an abundance of owl hats. They were super easy and cute to boot. However, I tire quickly of the same project and this year made about 10 more before our youngest was born in November, but since then I haven't been able to get back at it. But this time I think the quilting might just stick. Its low maintenance, simple, therapeutic and fulfilling.The only thing that drives me absolutely batty is my temperamental sewing machine... but I can get past that hopefully! Below is the finished quilt - two metres of fabric and a whole lotta love, all for my nephew that should be arriving in the next five or six weeks! As I get better at this I may consider selling them, but for now its a labour  of love. And as my oldest gets better at sewing we will start doing more sewing projects just for him and I can't wait!